Kids aren't the only ones who get bullied. Adults are bullied too and frankly, let's call it what it is - they are abused by other people. Cause really - what do bullies do? They verbally abuse, they emotionally abuse and sadly, they also physically abuse.
Take a moment - have you, as an adult, been abused by another adult? Was it your spouse? Was it your boss? Was it a family member? Was it your pastor? Did they say hurtful things to you or about you? Do they lie about you to your face or to others behind your back? Do they attack your character in an attempt to make you look bad to other people? Do they undermine your confidence and make you feel bad about yourself? Do they cast you aside after they've seemingly cared about you for considerable lengths of time? Does their abuse of you seem to just come naturally to them? Do they abuse you without any signs of remorse? Have you even been hit by another person?
It's hard to get help or even admit you're being abused by someone. I know, I've been the victim of my own share of abuse.
I'm happy to say that today, no one is abusing me in any form or fashion and I will not allow anyone to ever abuse me again. I can look back on my own experiences (dating all the way back to childhood) and find some good in what I went thru. One thing I've learned is I need to speak out when I know someone is being abused otherwise I am JUST AS GUILTY as the abuser. By not opening my mouth I am enabling the abusive behavior that is hurting another human being along with myself. By continuing to put that smile on my face using whatever excuse I can to convince myself everything is fine I am helping create the possibility that someone else could start being abused by my abuser.
So make no mistake, when I see/know about abuse happening to other people, I will NOT keep my mouth shut. I'm not afraid of the picture(s) that could be or are painted of me by those who don't like or are afraid of the things I have to say. I no longer will be intimidated by the very manipulations abusers use to keep their victims in line and silent. ENOUGH!
Speaking out is scary and you certainly open yourself up to criticism and things said about you in an attempt to bash your character and undermine your attempts at exposing abusers for who they really are. Abusers have their fans and are masters at making sure they have folks rally around them in order to protect their true selves. If you live your life in such a way that people couldn't possibly believe the lies and negativity being said about you then there's nothing to worry about. If people will believe things about you without talking to you directly then so what? Those aren't people you should be around anyway.
If you're being abused, you don't deserve it. You are worthy and I encourage you to summon up all your strength to say ENOUGH! You WILL NEVER HURT ME AGAIN! If your abuser isn't just abusing you then you need to not only say ENOUGH but need to stop standing by while you watch the same stuff happening to others around you. Help those find the courage to also stand up and say ENOUGH! Stand up together. Share your story with others and don't and/or stop worrying about what anyone else will say or think about you. Don't be an enabler to an abuser. Don't help lure more victims into their world. Just don't.
My husband has started a blog that has been the inspiration for my post today. Take a look, read and bookmark the page so you can return and read more of the things he has to say. I guarantee if you are being abused, especially at the hands of a Mog (go to his page, you'll see what it means) you will benefit greatly from reading what he has to say about his own experiences.
Any form of abuse by one person against another is evil. Evil thrives in the darkness of deceit. BE THE LIGHT. Shine light on this darkness and stop abusers from hurting people. Stop them from hurting YOU.
Have a blessed day friends!
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